Have you ever had the experience where you are paddling gently down the stream of life, it is easy and it is effortless? You are in the flow of life. Then suddenly the water starts to move faster, there is turbulence, each time you put your paddle in the water nothing happens – you are out of control! Your confidence crumbles and you wonder why you ever went on this adventure in the first place. You have no idea how to master these white waters, suddenly you are out of flow and self doubt has set in. Keep reading to find to find tips on how to master self doubt.
1. Create a Confidence List
Go back in time and write a list of when at first you doubted yourself and then conquered that feeling. For example, you were really nervous about doing a presentation in front of your boss and you pulled it off really well. Dig a little deeper and make some notes on what helped you get to that point of confidence. When you start recognising your past successes it will strengthen your belief in yourself and help you to achieve greater success in your future. Before you spiral into self doubt you can also draw on the methods that have helped you in the past to get back to that point of confidence.
2. Build a Fact Finding Table
Create a table with two columns. In column one you need to write down your doubtful thoughts. In the second column jot down the facts that defeat those doubtful thoughts. For example, column one – I will never get that promotion. Column 2 – I have a really good track record at the company for hard work, I have always delivered on deadlines, etc.
3. Take One Step at a Time
The best way to counter self doubt is by taking action. Start off gently, with one small action. For example, if you self doubt surrounds your creativity, start by singing in the shower or doodling on a piece of paper before you move onto the master piece. It doesn’t need to be perfect the first time so do something instead where you have fun and laugh.
4. Take the Test
Start a daily journal where you write down all the things that you did well during the day, both small and big tasks. Then write a second list with the things that didn’t go so well. You will easily start to see the trend, the good is far better than the bad. This will allow you to see yourself in a different light and grow your confidence.
5. Get the Party Started
You will know when you have doubted yourself and the outcome far exceeds your expectations, don’t just move onto the next thing. It is important to stop, celebrate your success and reward yourself. Do something fun that you really enjoy and start creating positive emotions in your mind. Then next time you are in similar situation you will remember your success and eventually the self doubt will disappear more quickly.
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